Bad Incident

It was late Sunday night on the 9th of November 2008; I was working as usual on closing shift with other 3 baristas and my manager on duty. The night was quite pleasant and fun since I’m working with partners I have met and bonded with easily.We finished closing the store quite early that night and most of them straight-away went home except for me, Hafiz and Ad (both of us closing bar and waited for Ad to finish his paperwork). After we locked the door, Hafiz went off because he parked his motorbike in different direction to where me and Ad heading. I sit at my usual waiting place at the taxi stand located near in front of Pavilion for my sister to come and pick me up. My sister was never punctual even though she had lived in KL for 9 years and knows the traffic very well. While waiting for her, I was constantly messaging my best friend as usual he always message until I reach safely home. All the sudden, comes this foreign either Pakistan or whatever country guy out of nowhere sitting beside me and was saying something. I looked at him with a confused faced, then he said sure, sure… So I was like, uuh..ok…????? and continuing messaging my friend at the same time telling him about this foreign guy disturbing me. Then, this foreign guy (I’ll name him Des as in desperate), so this guy Des, continues to flirt. He asked with this “macho” attitude, “So, are you Chinese or Malay?” I looked at him, and asked why does he want to know? He answered something that I can’t hear a single word… So I replied saying that I’m Malay. Then, he was talking shit saying that he really love Malay girls and keep looking for one or something. I then looked at him and said if I told him that I’m Chinese surely he will say the same thing. Then he laughed.I continue messaging my friend and ignoring him, then he lean closer to my face as if he wants to smell me or kiss me. So, I back off a bit, and looked at him with an angry face and looked at the 2 security guard in front me while giving them signals that I need their help. Then, he asked for my name. I said hastily, “It’s none of your business to know my name and I’m not comfortable you being way too close to me!” He was either so stupid or deaf because he slides even more close. I was pissed off at the 2 security guards just staring and do nothing even though they heard every word I said. Back to this guy, I was already shaking because I know that he isn’t drunk. I was cursing and saying to myself, “Sis! Where are u?”…  He was inviting me for a drink while I can feel like he was sniffing my hair. I yelled, “Back off! I’m not comfortable having you here. YOU ARE DISTURBING ME! LEAVE!” …I don’t know whether he is so damn stupid or didn’t understand my tone of voice, he then grab my hand and caressing it from my fingers to my shoulder. I felt harassed and thinking that this guy is a lunatic. My tears came out; I grabbed my bag and ran from there. I was cursing my sister so badly for never punctual every time I told her to pick me up at certain time especially around late nights. So, I waited at the traffic lights where cars keep passing by. Told my friend what happened, while waiting for my sister to come and fetch me… He scolded me, saying that I’m too soft.The reason why I posted this incident because every time I think about it, it’s true. He is right. I am too soft. I wondered and evaluate myself. It seems that I’ve changed ever since I moved to Kuching. I became a girly girl. If this incident can turn its clock back, I was not supposed to react like that. Last time, when this kind of thing happened, I will respond very brutally. Either I will punched him, threw my beverage at him, etc… not cried and ran. Oh My God! What happen to the other half of me? It’s been 3 years since I’ve experienced this matter. I guessed environment does play its part in changing your personality, whether to be a better person or the worse. One thing that I see in myself compared to 4 years ago. I am a lady, I mean my feminine side finally shows